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JERRY LEWIS ENDS HIS CAREER AND STEPS DOWN FROM THE MDA

Jerry Lewis who has been in the news over the last year just could not keep his mouth shut. First he went after the gay community, then the American Idol kids and now the obese.
It was just a matter of time till somebody finally did something. Lewis had announced he would not be hosting the telethon back in may with no reason why he would skip his 45th year. At the time he also agreed to continue as the head of this very worth while organization. Then of course Lewis decided to strike out again at a group of people who were giving their all to beat the odds.
Perhaps the MDA felt that enough hate and hurt was all that people could handle before it affected their organization in a negative way.
What pains me the most is that this used to be a very funny comedian who loved to make people laugh.
When he first teamed with Dean Martin to form the great comedy team of Martin and Lewis, they were loved. Then came the famous breakup. For years it was rumored that it was Jerry’s ego. I am now starting to believe those rumors.
These days Jerry has gone from being extremely overweight of which he blamed on the steroids he was taking for a chronic painful illness.
Now that he is thin again, Jerry seems to have forgotten what it was like to be fat.
Lewis feels that if someone puts themselves out there on television and takes off a great amount of weight, their still fat pigs unless they get down to one hundred and fifty pounds or lower.
Why reward them.
Very sad talk for a man that is supposed to represent compassion when he hosted the MDA telethons.
If a person loses ten pounds, I personally would reward them. Weight loss only leads to less diseases, personal well being and less cost to the health care system.
Yet Lewis feels that this should not be rewarded.
Weight loss is one of the hardest battles this country has ever faced and the number of overweight citizens is growing faster every year. We are at epidemic proportions.
I guess the old wise tale might be right about a sad angry person behind every comedian or clown.

Bring In The Clown, The Obese Are On Parade

Recognize This Obese Clown?I have spent too many times in a restaurant or at the checkout aisle in the grocery store embarrassed by what I was buying.

Numerous times I gave up going out to lunch or dinner with my family out of the same fear. People said that this fear was all in my head, but realistically, I feel like I am a walking billboard for obesity.

If I have dessert at a table, people look at me with shame. Yet those same people can have the post-dining treat without even a thought of judgement from my end.

I feel like I am the circus act that dares to enter the places that I am supposed to stay away from.

It drives me crazy that everyone looks at dieting as a form of will power, but it can’t be further from the truth. After all, who would WANT the lifestyle of a person battling obesity ?

For instance, how many people watched Kirstie Alley on ‘Dancing With The Stars’ for the prowess of her dancing? They watched because they wanted to see the side show, and had the opportunity to witness when or if she’d fail. She had the potential for just that… right?

We have view those who are fighting obesity in a different light. Whether you consider it a disease or not, bigotry and verbal abuse should not be tolerated in any society.

 Wouldn’t it be a great world if everyone was treated equal?

Obviously this equal outlook isn’t going to happen immediately, but at least we can educate people about the emotional harm that their ignorance brings.

Here’s The Skinny On Shopping, Part 2.

A Special Guest Post By: Courtney Mueller, Co-Producer of “Finding Thin”

I went back to therapy.  And by that I mean I went shopping again.  I thought I’d give Nordstrom a chance to make me feel better.

This time I didn’t go alone. I brought a friend for support.  It was a good idea but ended up going awry.

We were working our way through every department- from shoes, to jewelry, to makeup, our joint therapy session seemed to be heading off to a promising start.

Then we ended at clothing.

It was regular sized woman and super thin person tackling the sometimes torturous world of fashion.

I am generally comfortable in my skin and love to use my retail therapy to show myself off. But as soon as we entered the dressing room, my confidence waned. Each shirt or pair of pants was modeled to get the other person’s approval. We trust each other’s opinions and usually can usually tell what the other is thinking as soon as we stepped out of our private rooms.  Every time I tried on a new piece I smiled at myself at the mirror and then walked out for the friendly review. We stepped out and gave the look, the thumbs up or down, or gushed over how fantastic or hideous the clothes were.

This time though, I found myself suddenly self-conscious. While I would try multiple sizes in search of the perfect fit, every piece my friend tried on fit her perfectly or (even worse) was too big on her. I felt like her only problem was trying to pick what to buy from her stash while I was trying to pick out one or two items from my stash that would fit. I was jealous.

Regardless of our sizes, the retail therapy modeling session remained the same for the both of us; some tops looked great, others didn’t. And even though I was self-conscious, in a way, so was she. She didn’t love how she looked in every single thing she tried on, even if I thought she looked great.

She disproved my theory that the size zero girl didn’t existent. She existed alright, and she had the same problems as a size regular like me. She experienced the same issues, just at a smaller size. Our experience together made me realize that regardless the size, every one has their own body type issues.

Flight Travel For The Fat Man

After our very recent trip to L.A., I can officially verify that flying…sucks.

Sorry for the lack of better terms, but it is simply incredible how uncomfortable and expensive it truly is if you are obese.

Even from the time you check in, there’s a fee for the carry-on.

The seats are now half the size of a children’s roller coaster, but for a little bit more money out of my pocket, you can fly in a bigger seat.

I watched many people who were in no way overweight even struggle.

I think it’s time for a change.

Flight attendants are practically non-existent; they shout out the safety information when we are “comfortably seated” and then they proceed to sit down themselves to get right to their novel (Thanks Spirit).

Perhaps the next implemented idea should be charging by the pound for the ticket. I mean if the airline can’t afford the luggage, a mid-flight snack, or a little extra room for even the average customer, then we must take drastic steps….right?

Here’s an idea…why don’t we put the heaviest people in cargo and then make it an upgrade price to make it to the seating area? It’s genius; right, America?

Times have truly changed for the worse with flying. Plus, in our trying times of fighting obesity, I find it extremely ironic that they now sell value meals including soda, chips and chocolate chip cookies.

I think that’s sort of going the wrong way with pushing people to lose weight. Or are the ignoring the obesity epidemic and pushing for a more fattening flight experience to grab the extra buck?

Anyway, that is the traveling rant for L.A.

Tomorrow, I will cover an inside scoop about my quest in “Finding Thin” with what used to be among the thinest states… California. For starters…the earthquakes, fires and mudslides have not been the only things to change since I left years ago. California has been losing their thin.

Houston we have a problem”.

Oh yeah, I forgot that they have their own problems with weight control down there too…

Emotional Eating

Dr. Judith S. Beck

This is a guest post by Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., author of “The Beck Diet Solution: Train Your Brain to Think Like a Thin Person” and President of Beck Institute for Cognitive Therapy and Research.

Chronic dieters often have beliefs about emotional distress and eating that interfere with losing weight or keeping it off. They express the ideas in the following ways: “If I’m upset, the only way I can calm down is by eating.” “If I’m upset, I deserve to eat.”

Woman Eating to much food while a man stands behind her while condemning her for her actions

Are you an emotional eater?

To address the first idea, I ask dieters about people they know who don’t have a weight problem. What do they do when they’re upset? Dieters frequently feel stymied–they simply don’t know. After polling hundreds of people, I’ve found that people who don’t struggle with their weight do lots of things when they’re upset: they try to solve the problem that is leading to distress, call a friend, take a walk, tolerate the feeling and return to whatever they were doing, practice relaxation or mindfulness exercises–or they distract themselves (surf the web, write emails, play a video game, do a puzzle, listen to soothing music). This group has a different idea about emotional distress: that it is temporary, normal, tolerable, and will diminish.

To address the second idea, “If I’m upset, I deserve to eat,” I get across the message that dieters deserve to feel better but that eating will only give them temporary relief. Once the food is gone, they’ll still have the initial problem that led to distress plus they’ll feel badly about having overeaten. I help them see that they have a choice: They can eat whenever they’re upset (and fail to lose weight or keep it off) or they can tolerate their distress or actively work toward reducing their distress in other ways (which greatly increases the probability that they will lose weight and maintain their weight loss).

I then work with dieters to create a list of compelling activities they can engage in when they’re upset and they quickly find out that they can self soothe in other ways. Many of these activities are described in the newsletters and blogs at www.beckdietsolution.org.

Obesity Now Greater Threat To Military Then Homosexuality

Obesity now a greater threat to US Troops then homosexuality!

We all thought ‘Don’t ask, Don’t’ tell would protect us from getting infected with a dose of humanity by prohibiting gays in the military. How stupid and ignorant that was. Though watch out, there is now an even bigger threat and it is called obesity.
In 2008 the military wrongly discharged 634 individuals under the ‘Don’t ask, Don’t tell’ rule.
Recently though, over 5,000 military personal were discharged for failing to meet military weight standards.
It looks like they got it wrong all this time. It wasn’t the gays that were the perceived threat to the military’s morale and readiness. Rather the fact that some soldiers might have been spending to much time in the Mess Hall.
Perhaps now we can take the time to not only teach acceptance of others but also learn how to cook and eat healthy.
Just think, a new venue for Weight Watchers to hold meetings at.