Category Archives: Serious Issues

Say Yes To The Dress: Big Bliss

Every girl dreams about her wedding dress. Whether starting to walk down that aisle as a flower girl or swooning over the latest celebrity wedding dress, girls inevitably become dreamers. They compare, draw opinions, and imagine what they are going to look like on their special day.

This is especially apparent when it comes to the women that travel from all over the world to Kleinfeld’s.

Kleinfeld is one of the most famous bridal stores, located in Manhattan, New York. It is also the location where TLC’s “Say Yes To The Dress” television series takes place. Women flock here to have a personalized, one-on-one experience with a professional bridal consultant in order to discuss and find their dream wedding dress. In hopes of saying “yes to the dress” for their day of I do’s, Kleinfeld’s is comparable to the mecca of the bridal gown experience.

Recently, TLC added an additional show “Say Yes To The Dress: Big Bliss” featuring plus-size brides in search of finding their dream dress at the same store.

The big girls got their own big show.

It felt like night and day when comparing the two shows. The original features all types of brides, whereas “Big Bliss” concentrates on only the plus-sized. The biggest hurdle for the original show’s brides was picking and choosing between lace, satin, blingy and A-line or mermaid shaped dresses.

The biggest hurdle for Big Bliss, was just that… being big. Every story consisted of women battling to find a dress that fit, made her look thin, show off her curves, and make her feel like the princess that she wanted to be. One woman in particular wanted to simply buy the first dress because it had fit…and she hadn’t been able to fit into a new piece of clothing-let alone a wedding dress- in years. It was disheartening, but the Kleinfeld professionals worked extremely hard at finding her the right fit for her body size and made her feel comfortable while doing so. But the reality still is that there are fewer sizes to choose from for the plus-size bride.

To some, people would say “Big Bliss” is doing a service to help plus-size brides feel as glamorous as possible on her wedding day. To others, “Big Bliss” is glorifying the struggle that these women have had to deal with throughout their lives.

Can’t one show size fit all?

 

The Pain of Weight Loss

I emotionally eat. It was always my downfall, especially when compounded by sugar, salt, and sweets.

Unfortunately this aided my gaining weight after my truck accident years back.

I have always suffered a lot of pain from this accident, but it is increasing and I’m in need of surgery.

The big problem is that I am becoming opioid resistant-meaning that I have built up a tolerance to pain medications.

All the while, I began to transition to different eating habits thanks to my time filming the upcoming movie.

I don’t find myself turning to food to sooth my pain or give me that quick relief that fades in minutes. I’m slowly becoming less of an emotional eater.

So what does someone do when they have nowhere to turn to for an outlet?

I have heard this problem happening with weight loss surgery patients whom have yet find a different source to turn to…and usually gain back most their weight.

It is just so difficult because I am not looking to put on weight and would enjoy some weight loss. Especially before surgery.

I just refuse to do it by going on a diet. This time it really needs to be something that I can live with doing for the rest of my life.

After over 400 interviews, I finally feel like I have it figured out.

The good news is that I am recognizing that I am emotionally eating. I see that I am emotionally eating as my outlet for pain.

Most importantly, I know that I won’t go down that road.

Kirstie Alley’s Weight For Fame

Kirstie AlleyKirstie has been down this road before. First it was with her TV series, “Fat Actress” where she documents her battle of obesity. Then it was Jenny Craig’s massive paycheck which helped to keep the weight off by using their diet.

Finally Kirstie went through weeks and weeks of rehearsals for dancing on the hit show, “Dancing With The Stars”.

And just weeks after the very fast weight loss, Kirstie has her own diet that she is promoting to the public.

The problem lies in the fact that Kirstie has always used the wrong motivation to lose her weight. If it’s not for the money, then it’s for the fame.

If Kirstie made healthy choices that she could abide by, then it wouldn’t be such a problem. But the motivation remains financial and for fame.

Without it, she would most likely return to emotional eating and land herself back to square one.

I do wish Kirstie success, but I question if she is the right person to create a diet program. It seems too soon and without testimonials it can cause a very likely dangerous proposition.

She claims that she worked with scientists to come up with this new diet plan. To be honest, I think the scientific community has been at this a lot longer with very little success. Perhaps instead of talking with the researchers, she should try talking to others that suffer from the same disease.

You might get some real answers. You might get real results.

We’ll Figure It Out Tomorrow…

A Special Guest Blog By: Courtney Mueller,Co-Producer of
“Finding Thin”

What is it about tomorrow? We always say:

Well, tomorrow’s a brand new day.

Tomorrow, tomorrow, I love ya, tomorrow, you’re only a day away.

Just sleep on it and figure it out tomorrow.

Tomorrow has become a coping concept within our lifestyles. Instead of living in the moment, we settle for tomorrow to have the answer we are looking for. We’ll figure it all out tomorrow.

Especially when it comes to taking initiative on our health.

We always say:

Tomorrow I will start working out.

Tomorrow I will start that diet.

Tomorrow I will start living a healthy lifestyle.

We use tomorrow as a crutch for the inevitable necessities in our life. We’ll hold off just a little bit longer, even by just a minute, in order to put off life’s decisions.

In all reality, tomorrow isn’t just a day away. We will do anything to wait and see what happens, even though life is happening right now.

John Lennon famously said, “Life happens while you’re busy making other plans.” This concept is especially applicable to the decisions we make about our health as we get older, and hopefully wiser, the necessity of making a conscientious decision becomes more imperative. We choose to eat the candy instead of the apple. We choose to take the elevator instead of the stairs. We are constantly choosing the way we want to live and the route we want to take in every present moment, yet our mindset tends to drift off into the future.

Sure I’ll treat myself to a 7-course meal tonight, but tomorrow I’ll be sure to work it off at the gym.

Today needs to be the day where we make the change. We need to stop waiting. We need to stop counting on the unknown and instead stay present in what we know right here, right now.

Empowering yourself to make the small decisions everyday will create many more tomorrows.

It’s a Fight That Doesn’t Have to Be So Hard

When I lost both of my dogs last month, I went into the deepest form of depression that I have ever experienced. Luckily my friends stood by me, but there was not much they could do to help my inevitable pain. To mourn, I wanted food…

and not necessarily the good kind.

I knew if I emotionally ate, the outcome would be a reverse affect of my hard work, and I was very much willing to accept that.

In the end, the pain did subside and I only gained a couple of pounds.

I’m determined to lose that weight and that pain.

Being in control really does aid my happiness. It is great that I have finally had the chance to learn all of this by making this film. I have been given a one in a million chance to have three years of constant advice from the top diet and health gurus in the country. They are helping me fight the fight of obesity. Even through emotional obstacles, I’m still fighting the fight.

It doesn’t have to be so hard…does it?

Diets + Depression = Weight Gain

Just a Spoonful of Antidepressants

A while back, I found out that I was suffering from bouts of depression. I started on the typical SSRI’s and ended up gaining a significant amount of weight. Due to reversing my progress, I wanted to get off of them.

How could I diet if these pills were not giving me a fair chance?

I started to think about genes and the fat ones that I inherited from my family. Just because I was predisposed to becoming obese didn’t mean I had to be obese.

There must be a way to not suffer from negative side effects, especially for drugs that a lot of people depend on.

But I realized that when I started walking for exercise, my endorphins kicked in, making me feel great both mentally and physically. There was something that I could physically do to not only beat the side effects of weight gain, but make myself feel better as well.

Now I am taking a more proactive attitude of not letting things just beat me down.

I know what will happen if I go off the pills; I’ll emotionally eat.

Major weight gain. Major depression.

I can stay on the medication; I’ll just need to keep walking, one step at a time.


 

Is Miss Piggy Promoting Obesity?

You must think I am crazy, but there is a level of seriousness to it.

Miss Piggy is one of the most beloved characters within the crew of Muppets… but she certainly has a weight problem.

The audience can see her as a prototype of the overweight people they like to make fun of. Yet nobody behind the show has done anything to counter that.

I give credit to team Miss Piggy and Kermit the Frog. They don’t make fun of the difference in size there. Size doesn’t matter in this case.

Still I question the reasoning behind Miss Piggy being overbearing and loud. Is it because she is overweight?

In all seriousness though, if you look at many of todays animated characters, they are certainly all suffering from an uncontrolled eating problem.

Surely the Cookie Monster changed his ways to promote his veggies; but when we see just a picture of the blue creature, we immediately associate a chocolate chip cookie being devoured and start to perhaps crave one ourselves.

It is time that we control what goes into our mouth and take responsibility. It is time to not stereotype. It is time to promote health along with a healthy image.

If not, I guess we can just cook Miss Piggy for a pig roast and see how the kids react.